Men are attracted by a woman's physical beauty, but of more importance to them is her character. Your physical beauty can entice a man but good character keeps him. Every man adores a woman with good attitudes. What are these character traits that would make men want you, and the one that has you swear never to leave you?
#1. Be A Motivator
Men want women who believe in them and inspire them. A woman who makes her man believe he can achieve anything he wants would remain loved in the relationship. The truth is that in their frustration from failed attempt, men are usually sensitive to the behaviour and attitude of their women. If he gets inspired by her, she becomes an idol. If otherwise, he would start searching for another woman. Motivate your man and he would adore you.
#2. Don’t Play Wife Until You Are Made A Wife
Never play the role of a wife in the life of a man until he marries you. Housekeeping, laundry, cooking, sex, etc. are some responsibilities expected of a wife. The moment you start doing these most men will feel relaxed and unwilling to formally marry you. He begins to think that since he is already getting all he should get from a wife from you, why waste his energy and resources on marital rites and ceremonies? Playing wife in a relationship (dating or courtship) is like short-circuiting an electrical circuit. You hinder the proper flow of deep attraction, affection and desire that would have been consummated after the wedding. Added to the fact that it is sinful, if the man has sex with you while dating or courting, it means that he has tapped the most precious treasure a woman can bring to a relationship. That treasure is designed to be savoured in marriage and not any other time. I have seen women get pregnant for the man they are dating while playing wife. They are either rejected by the man or forced by circumstances to start co-habiting with him. Very few men go on to formally marry the woman.
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#3. Show Interest In What Interests Men
One reason for marriage is for companionship which is best lubricated by stimulating conversations. This makes it necessary that you learn and show interest in the things that men find pleasure doing. Doing this equips you with the basic knowledge you need to initiate, sustain and steer discussions with a man. It betters your communication. Think about it, some men leave their homes to go watch football matches in a friend’s place so they can discuss the game as it goes on. If he has a wife who has as much passion for football as he does, he would most probably watch the game at home analysing it with his wife as it goes on. Some of the things men show so much interest in are: business, sports, current affairs, politics and cars. Can you initiate and make meaningful contributions in discussions in these areas? If you can, then you have made yourself a potential great chat-mate of your prospective husband. If you cannot then you need to learn because it will help you not only to get into a good relationship but to also sustain and enjoy it.
One thing that Rachel had that got her to Jacob was her love for flock herding which was predominantly men’s career (Genesis 29). Jacob being a shepherd could not resist getting attracted to this wonderful woman who loves what men love.
#4. Be Respectful
Disrespect and arrogance puts men off. They perceive an arrogant woman as ungovernable. Men are creatures with ego. They therefore want to be respected always. Respect and humility are cardinal keys to being a woman men would adore. When a man is disrespected by a woman, his ego is wounded. He feels awful and would want to prove that he is the man. Some express this by abusing the woman (verbally, emotionally or physically) while others might terminate the relationship.
Years back, a woman complained to me about her uncle who came back to Nigeria from the United States to contest a political office. His wife and children did not come with him. Most times he eats at a restaurant operated by a single lady. Over time, the man started going out with the lady and eventually married her. The woman who told me the story was afraid that her uncle was under a love smell. But I thought otherwise. I told her that her uncle most probably saw some cherished qualities in this new lady. Remember she has to be at the best of her character to sustain patronage of her business. She must have shown the man a level of respect he does not get from his wife that made him see this second lady as a better option.
#5. Kindness and Hospitality
Most men love women who are kind and willing to help others. To them, this means friends and family members would not be scared off by their spouse or have much problems getting help from them. They know that hospitable women will get along with their loved ones. Learn to always be kind.
#6. Tolerance
#10. Be A Good Cook
The saying that “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach” is not far from the truth. By their nature, men love food and eat more than women. They therefore will love to have a wife who is a good cook. To be better admired by the men learn how to prepare a variety of dishes and snacks. Your husband will be more proud of you if you will be the one that prepares every food that goes into his belly. Achieving that means you have almost established yourself as indispensable in his life. He would not want to lose his best cook and so will do all to keep the marriage healthy. Most married men find it difficult to eat out if the food made by their wives is better than what they eat out there.
These are crack qualities that would make men beg for your love. Cultivate them and you will become men's idol.
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