FOUR WRONG REASONS FOR MARRIAGE

So many people do go into marriage for all the wrong reasons. Some of which include;

Physical Beauty and Attraction
This is a very wrong reason to get married to anybody. It is understandable that God gave human beings the affinity to beauty, and so everyone admires and appreciates a beautiful lady or a handsome young man. But, you should know also that God made every person beautiful in his/her own way. Most times, the very beautiful ladies and handsome young men you see are hardly beautiful in their attitude and character. They are more like a painted sepulchre; beautiful outside, but stinking inside. This is especially so, when they don’t have Christ. You should therefore be more concerned with seeing good qualities – courtesy, kindness, love, chastity, gentleness, commitment, responsibility, gratitude and humility – in the life of your prospective spouse. The scripture says,
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised”. – Prov. 30:31 (NIV)

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. – 1 Pet. 3:3-4 (NIV)

You should understand that physical beauty fades. She will not look that beautiful after the second childbirth neither will he remain that handsome forever. A disaster or accident can take away the beauty. What would you do in such situation? Marry a new wife, divorce her or what? Don’t let your eyes deceive you.

A friend of mine fell into this trap. She got herself involved in relationship with a very handsome young man. They have already picked a date to start their traditional marriage rites before she discovered that this young man, who claimed to be born-again has very serious libido problems. He has also built their relationship on lies and deceptions. He flirts and has made passes on her close acquaintances. She couldn’t believe what she discovered. There was no option but to end the courtship. It wasn’t easy for her, but she had to do it if she must save herself greater sorrow in the future. You might not be as lucky as this my friend who discovered her would-have-been partner’s real personality on time. So be very careful.

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#4. Success and Wealth of the Spouse or In-laws

There is nothing wrong in marrying a successful or wealthy spouse, but everything is wrong when success and wealth becomes the sole reason for such a union. Success and wealth are very bad foundation on which to solely build a marriage (a life-long relationship). Life realities have shown that life has never been a bed of roses. Things might not continue to thrive well. The money or success might not continue. In such a case, where marriage was consummated for a spouse’s success or wealth, problems would start once these material things are no more there. There are so many men whose wives married because of their money and unfortunately, the riches is no more there today.

Many of such marriages have become a semi-hell; unions to be endured and not enjoyed. Such women go to any length, even selling their bodies for money. Are you in the category of people, who want to go into courtship or are already into one for your spouse’s material success, repent before it is too late. Know that riches and success might not last forever (Prov. 27:24).

Age
Some others rush into marriage because they feel age is no longer on their side. Well, the truth is that it does not matter how early or late you marry as much as how well and healthy the marriage is.

Match-making
Others go into courtship and subsequently marriage as a result of pressure and match-making by family members, pastor/spiritual leaders, friend, etc. These are all wrong reasons to plunge yourself into courtship or marriage.